Did your girlfriend just leave you and you are sitting there wondering why?
Don't worry you are not alone and just to give you an idea – at least three quarters of most breakup are initiated by the woman. So basically there are more men that are going through this than there are women.
If she dumped you then where does that leave you now? You would think that guys would just bounce back from this type of situation with greater ease than women. We always believe that women have a harder time getting over a breakup than men do because they are usually more emotional. However a lot of guys out there are really sensitive and when they get dumped it pains them just the same, they just don't show it.
It was always thought that men are interested in any woman they come across and live from one fling to the next but they actually really do want to reach a solid relationship with that one special woman. Men also want that kind of stability in their lives.
Therefore when you believe that you are in that perfect relationship and then she dumped you, it's really hard to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and just move forward.
Guys are not prone to show their emotions and it's hard for them to show what they are going through. They will usually keep what they are feeling inside and going through to themselves and this can have serious effects on them down the road. Women normally let their feelings loose and chat with a girlfriend or keep a journal, whereas men don't frequently do these things. Since they keep these feeling and emotions bottled up inside they will need more time to get over the relationship.
First thing you should do is get rid of all the visual memories you have of your ex from your home. All CD's, pictures, clothing and all other stuff that belonged to her should not be left in your home. Otherwise you will always be stuck with reminders of her everywhere you turn your head and that will just make things even harder on you. Therefore chuck some stuff out, return her stuff to her or just lock it in storage but get them out of your eye's sight.
At this point she may want to just stay friends with you and this will really make things difficult for you to forget about her and move on. Staying friends might be a good option down the road but for now it's better to just cut her loose so you can deal with the fact that she dumped you. You really need time to get over this and if she will still be in the background then it will just make things that much harder.
You might not feel in the mood right now to go out with your buddies and have some fun but that is really what you do need at this time to help in getting over the breakup. This will help you in living your life again and enjoying it.
Over time you will come to terms with everything and will be ready to go out on dates again. You will not want to do this too fast though; you really need to be sure that you have recovered from the breakup before you can share your heart with another woman. There is certainly a perfect girl out there for you but just to be fair to both her and yourself you need to be ready to forget the past so you can live your life to it's fullest potential and have the perfect relationship you always wanted.
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